Although years pass and technology develops, men's long-term selection criteria do not change radically. The woman a man likes and the woman he stays with are different matters.
This difference becomes most apparent after marriage. Psychologists state that in the initial stage, a man reacts to emotional attraction. Appearance, attractiveness of behavior, and social activity come to the forefront. However, after marriage, priorities change. Here, daily life, behavioral compatibility, and inner comfort play a key role. A man seeks comfort in a long-term relationship.
Studies show that men tend to stay with women who create fewer conflicts until the end. This should not be perceived as weakness; it is a psychological need.
For a man, home should be a safe zone. In an environment with constant disputes, a man emotionally distances himself. This is a universal tendency, independent of culture.
Before marriage, a man views freedom as a romantic risk. After marriage, stability becomes the primary value. Here, the woman's behavioral model becomes decisive. A woman's resistance at every step reduces the relationship to a formal level. This is not only the end of love but also the functional collapse of the relationship.
In relationship sociology, there is the concept of “emotional leadership.” In many societies, this role is unofficially assigned to women. However, when a man does not feel his influence within the family, he experiences psychological discomfort. This discomfort eventually turns into distance.
How it is in Turkey…
Let's look at the example of Turkey. In the brotherly country, the family model has a semi-conservative character. Men like emotionally strong women. However, the need to have the final say in the family still remains. In Turkey, a man wants his word to be valued within the family. When this value is lost, the relationship becomes strained.
The situation is different in Europe...
Here, gender equality exists at an institutional level. However, in practice, men still expect emotional leadership. Although European men do not openly demand “obedience,” they expect adaptability. A partner who constantly goes in a different direction does not have a long-lasting relationship.
Japan, on the other hand, presents an interesting model...
In a Japanese family, the woman manages the internal system of the home. However, the man is the symbolic owner of public and strategic decisions. When this balance is disrupted, the family breaks down. In Japan, a woman's adaptability is perceived as loyalty.
How it is in Russia…
In the Russian model, emotional contradictions are sharper. Russian men are attracted to women with strong characters. However, disobedience in daily life creates long-term problems. For this reason, there are many formal marriages in Russian families.
How it is in Azerbaijan…
In Azerbaijan, there is a tension between tradition and modernity. Azerbaijani men like modern women. However, they want classic roles to be preserved within the family. This paradox is the main source of conflict in relationships.
There is a social model proven by global experience. When a woman respects her husband's word, the relationship stabilizes. This respect does not mean blind obedience. It is about understanding the psychological needs of the other party. When a woman considers what the man says regarding clothing, the man feels valued. This is not the loss of a woman's freedom. This is the preservation of balance in the relationship. When attention is paid to the behaviors a man likes, the bond strengthens. Otherwise, the relationship either takes the form of constant dispute or turns into formality. The process of living in one house but being in different worlds begins. This is the psychological end of the family.
In conclusion, it can be said that men stay not with romantic dreams, but with daily comfort. Love can continue, but if there is no behavioral compatibility, the relationship is not sustainable. This reality neither demeans women nor elevates men. This is an unchanging rule of social psychology.
Sevinc MAHARRAMOVA
